2018 Goals!

I started this blog a while back as a way for me to develop my skills as a writer and share my work with anyone who might find my story interesting.

I failed.

However, the lessons learned since I began to consider myself a writer and started on this journey changed my life in many ways.

My intent of this blog at first was to distill some of the failures and lessons I’ve learned in my life. I’ve always been a do-it-myself – learn by doing – type of guy. This led me to make some bad decisions which resulted in mistakes that many people make. These are the stories I hope to share with you all at some point in 2018 as I continue to learn and improve each day.

My commitment to personal growth and self-discovery began last year. I’d argue everything that had happened before that point was due to ignorance and blatant stupidity.

Not many people argue I’m the smartest guy around, trust me, I don’t either.

However, for a long time, I felt compelled to defend myself, my actions, and put on a persona that was not my true self. I was unaware of how influenced I had become by my environment, family, and more than deeply affected my confidence.

Now that you understand that a bit more, outside of diving into the depths of subjects that fascinate me, I intend to fulfill my commitment to you all this year and embrace blogging for what it is (or at least how I see it).

This is a little late but with 2017 in the books and 2018 in full force.

Here are some areas of my life I intend on improving in 2018. These can be considered goals, action items, thinking points, and for me, they are building blocks to my future. To continue acting in accordance with my virtues, limiting my vices and to be myself as often as possible.

2018 Goals

  1. Improve Relationships: A bit personal for me to share, yet something I’d say requires improvement in my life. Better communication with family, friends and important people in my life. I’ve let too many people down and too many people go in my life. Some for better, others for worse. I plan to reconcile lost friendships, put an end to relationships which are holding me back, and continue to build new relationships with people who inspire and motivate me to become better every day.
  2. Exercise: I no longer have a gym membership which was a decision I made to save money in Q3 last year. Yoga, bodyweight and home workouts have saved me. I plan to continue my twice weekly Bikram Yoga practice, run 1-2 times per week, and 2 days of hard bodyweight/jump rope work at home. Basically, continue what has been working great and build as I improve.
  3. Diet: More green smoothies! They don’t always taste great but the feeling in my body afterward is sensational. The confidence and strength gained from treating your body right are incredible. Eat more veggies, fewer carbs, and less refined/processed sugar.
  4. Books: Last year I read somewhere between 40-50 books (several twice). I’m so proud of myself for committing to the glorious habit of reading! I am obsessed. My goal for this year is 50-60 books (Print, Kindle, Audible). So far I’ve read “As A Man Thinketh”, by James Allen and “Sapiens”, by Yuval Noah Harari. 2018 will be my best year for knowledge, that I know for sure.
  5. Writing: Right now I write at least 1,000 words a day in one sitting combined with all of my other writing (journaling, minimal social media, emails, Medium, etc…). I’m thinking deeply about my authorship goals for 2018; a novel, non-fiction book, screenplay, or something relating to comedy. My major goal is to find writing/publishing mentor or agent combined with an internship, part-time job, or career opportunity to build more relationships with people who inspire me and can help to improve my craft. I should subcategorize writing since this is a major part of my and ambition.
  6. Coffee/Caffeine: Yes this deserves its own section. It’s my blog. One coffee a day. I’ve been drinking Mushroom Coffee by Four Sigmatic and I swear to you, NO jitters, NO anxiety – PURE FOCUS! Other than one coffee a day I drink a lot of caffeine free tea, mostly chamomile early morning and late at night.
  7. Blogging: 1-2 posts a week. I write far too much to not be able to share SOMETHING with you all every week. I read and listen to far too many books and podcasts to have nothing interesting to say, ever. I apologize for my lack of commitment and I will stick with it this year! (even if it sucks…)
  8. Reading: 1-2 hours per day. I heard that Bill Gates carves out one-hour blocks of time to read in order to engage with the material in more depth. Once I heard that I immediately applied have been processing, learning, and understanding material at a MUCH deeper level. I throw some meditation, jazz, or other enjoyable background music on and allow the book to consume me. It’s wonderful.
  9. Budget: This is the most important aspect of my life. For lack of a more appropriate word. I’ve fucked up my credit and finances. I thought I had everything figured out and slowly the Compound Effect worked against me and here I am. I will be credit card debt free in 2018 and I intend to stay that way for the rest of my life. 2017 was the year of DECREASE in my life. No more daily trips to Starbucks or Chipotle; a peanut butter and jelly sandwich will suffice. Store brand over name brand groceries. No more eating out for lunch every day. You get the point. I’ll write a blog to detail out exactly how I cut my expenses and minimalized my spending as much as possible. I hope to be in a financial position to eat and live the way I desire at a minimal scale and not worry about much else. Until then, it’s PB&J’s…
  10. Travel/Relocation: A city that is conducive to my lifestyle is a major part of my year. I’m heading back to up New England next month for one trip and would love to plan a Q3 or Q4 yoga/meditation retreat. The destination is still to be determined (still researching). I’m super grateful for my job now and it allows me a super flexible work-day so I may stick around North Carolina for a while if things work out there…
  11. Minimalism: If you’ve read the book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”, by Marie Kondo you understand. I plan to dispose or give away any old or unwanted “stuff” in order to be more flexible when I decide to travel/relocate. I don’t think I want to go as far as buying a Tiny House (a little much for me) but getting rid of my excess material possessions feels great. It was cleansing to do before I moved to North Carolina and I realized I didn’t do a good enough job when I was unpacking clothes I hadn’t worn in years.
  12. Try New Things: I had a lot of “firsts” last year. I want to continue to push the boundaries of my comfort zone and explore things that I may love and not know yet. It’s been an interesting time in my life and I intend to keep the door open for opportunity. A few include; try stand-up comedy/improv (still scares the hell out of me, and I’ll DEFINITELY bomb!), tr*avel overseas, drive across the country, perform more “30-day challenges” to find new habits, finish writing a book, and many more. I love the idea of experimenting with new things, especially short-term projects that you can do every day. Neil Strauss has something he does where he’ll do something for a month to try it out. For example, strike up a conversation with a stranger every day for a month. Get rejected for something every day for a month (for reasons I’d rather not explain here), practice drawing or guitar for 10 minutes a day, the list goes on…
  13. Improve Communication Skills: Podcasts, interviews, audio recordings, presentations, meetings, dating, and relationships – our lives are becoming more and more inclusive of many forms of communication. I love to talk but most people who know me also know that I tend to ramble and rant when I get going (JUST SHUT UP ALREADY MATT), I apologize in advance. In order to button this up, I plan to practice my speaking skills and become more comfortable speaking in front of people, a camera, and socially to share my ideas without sweating profusely. I hope to become a better presenter of information; speeches, and ideas. A major life goal of mine is to present a TED Talk on a subject I’m passionate about.
  14. Editing: I’ve realized a weakness of my writing skills is my ability to edit and “murder the darlings” of most of my work. Most of my fiction writing has come out in a way that I can only describe as “stream of consciousness”, which isn’t always a good thing. I have no clear goal for this as of today outside of several reference books I use. 2018 will be a productive year for developing my understanding of the use of plot, narrative, and characters within all of my stories.
  15. Mindfulness: “Be Here Now“, by Ram Dass. A phrase I tell myself often when I become anxious or uncomfortable in any situation. Mindfulness and meditation came into my life at a time of poor health, habits, and decision making all around. This combined with treating my body poorly left me unhappy and discontent with life. Some may argue depressed and lonely. Not my finest hours, admittedly. Whatever, mindfulness for me is being present. Present to make the right decisions, present to stay focused on whatever it is you’re doing, and present to always be grateful, appreciative, and humble towards every beautiful day of life. We don’t deserve much in this life; we earn it.

I’m certain these will continue to vary as time goes on

My life philosophy and habits are what help me become who I am today. With that said, will publish another blog about my professional goals and how I plan to add the most value to the world with the gifts I’ve been given. Also, I will share what I have for upcoming projects once my goals are more clear for this year.

Thanks for reading! Leave a comment below with one of your goals for 2018!

A Caffeine Induced Trance

Daily Prompt: Trance

Trance: a half-conscious state characterized by an absence of response to external stimuli, typically as induced by hypnosis or entered by a medium.

Trance: a type of electronic dance music characterized by hypnotic rhythms and sounds.

What comes to mind when you see the word trance? At first, I pictured someone walking mindlessly without a care in the world. When I spoke the word out loud I brought about memories out at a nightclub with blaring trance music until the early hours of the morning. What in the world was I thinking? My ears are still ringing… safe to say that was not my favorite scene, though occasionally quite enjoyable.

I’m guilty of entering a trance-like state when I spend countless hours of my life over-caffeinated in a local cafe – usually Starbucks. You know, the guy with multiple cups, a venti for water and a venti for coffee, and half his home office with him. His bag filled with notebooks, pens, pencils, journals, and probably lunch – smart. This is the same guy you can see in deep thought staring into the abyss, appearing soulless.

Yeah, I’m that guy, a lot. I’ve grown accustomed to this state as it is usually followed by feelings of inspiration, joy, and a sense of accomplishment. I’ll sit back and let my mind digest everything that just happened, which usually occurs after a solid writing session of at least 1,500-2000 words. The more I write and longer I remain in this state, the greater the feelings.

As a writer, this state of trance is a river of words flowing onto pages and allowing me to clear my mind of all that I am presently thinking of. Hence, when I exit this sensation I feel strong emotions as if I just experienced something remarkable.

Writing and Thinking Space: My places to write

Where do you write?

Where do you produce your best writing?

Best thinking?

I’m back again this evening with your daily dose of ‘everyday inspiration’ encouraged by WordPress University. The question for today as I highlighted above is, “Where do you write?”

I write everywhere.

My bed in the morning and night. I begin expressing gratitude for what is great in my life and end each day with what amazing things have happened that day. This was inspired by the “Five Minute Journal“. A simple little journal with great powers of increasing happiness.

As I settle into Wilmington, North Carolina I feel fortunate to have space in the office at home where I sit each morning with a fresh cup of coffee to begin writing. Somewhere between 5:00 am and 6:30 am. I hand write three ‘Morning Pages‘ (sometimes I dread this, sometimes I am excited) as I’ve discussed in previous posts. This is not always enjoyable, especially when I am running on little sleep (often), but ALWAYS worth it.

Morning pages have shaped how I start my day. They clear the clutter in life. To express the negative and endless chatter of the mind. Writing morning pages in my office help; declutter my day, organize thoughts, ideas, concepts, plans, goals, strategize, and focus on what is important.

These help to get the mind into the ‘flow‘ of writing. I’ve gone 12 days in a row and have thirty-six pages consisting of; a lot of complaining, ranting, some good, some bad, frustrations, goals, objectives, ideas, projects, and more. This is my art. This exercises my mind to think about my life, family, friends, and make it real before I get overtaken by the day. It is important to note I write these each morning before looking at any technology. No TV, no media, no stimulation (except coffee or tea).

As a Writer, the hardest part of the job can be simply writing. This is a new part of my routine to get into a better state of mind to write. The creativity comes flying out of nowhere in my mind. It helps to surmount the ugly side of writing. The jumbled, mixed up thoughts and unfocused attention. As I continue to master my writing techniques and style, I’m very curious to see how the Morning Pages help me become better every day.

About my most recent writing space:

The office at home isn’t anything special. It includes a window which shines a ton of natural sun each morning (on clear days), plenty of space to stretch, exercise and move around as needed.

I keep books on my desk for inspiration (yes, I’ve read most of them). Most important is; my vision board, full-size world map and of course a fresh cup of coffee. My vision board is filled with my life aspirations, dreams and goals; mentors, leaders, role models, quotes, life goals, dreams, pictures of what I desire, and much more. A vision board helps me remember why I discipline myself and work so hard on myself. Why I say no to things which sound fun today but won’t contribute to my purpose. Don’t worry, I get out when I need it, I’m happy.

I look up each morning thinking about where I can go. Where do I want to travel? What do I want to see? Where could I live? What experiences could I have? Who do I want with me? Who would want to join me? Where I begin? More importantly, how am I going to get there? When am I going to go? I look up and see the world. The endless possibilities our fascinating planet has to offer. The map helps me dream. It aids the creative juices with forward-looking thinking. Possibility thinking. The idea of what exists in our world that I am missing. Travel is high on my list of life goals and I convince myself each day that if I keep doing what I am doing travel will become much more simple to justify. I don’t want to keep telling myself I want to travel, but… “I want to travel”. And write.

I dream of being a Travel Blogger or Writer.

Explore the world, meet fascinating people, and soak in unique experiences of other cultures and places on our planet. To write about the adventures, the experiences, cultures, and learn along the way. That is a big-picture purpose of my blog. A place to share my adventures and travel experiences with the world. Maybe the more I think about it and keep convincing myself it is real, it will actually happen…

As a writer, my best work doesn’t always come from the office. I’m notorious for heading to a local cafe for both Wifi and a change of scenery. I enjoy writing from new places, about new places.

Some days I will head to the beach, find a bench (yes I took the featured image above) or picnic table and spend some time writing outside. I find this soothing and very beneficial. I’m a nature and outdoor enthusiast so once my body is moving and I am physically outside my mind starts to flood with ideas and inspiration. This is critical for idea generation and to deeply ponder their possibility.

Cafe’s are probably my favorite. I will order my usual grande (medium) black iced coffee or a cappuccino, throw my Spotify writing playlist on and boom. I spice it up some days depending on the time and project. I will write for 5-10 minutes to get my mind right, then shift gears, set a timer and focus! This keeps me in the seat, focused, ready to attack the page. No distractions, interruptions or anything. Even the smallest distraction for me while focused writing can be a killer.

Lastly: Here are a few tips that have helped me avoid distraction while writing. This is why I imagine Authors do a lot of their writing between the hours of 10 pm and 5 am.

  1. Keep your phone on silent and put it away. Don’t even tempt yourself. It is not worth it and will be there when you are done.
  2. Set a timer. This helps me stay focused on the task at hand and disciplined to what I am working on.
  3. Close all unnecessary applications. Don’t be tempted to check an email or let your mind race to another task on your list.
  4. Kill the tabs. Don’t overwhelm yourself with countless tabs open in your browser. You’ll most likely need a browser open, so hide your Bookmarks bar and stay focused on what matters!

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